Wednesday, May 16, 2007

10 lies about our happy marriage

  1. It is easy and we've never had to work at it.
  2. We never disagree.
  3. Humour is not important.
  4. It would be better if we didn't spend time with just the two of us. I regret having a regular babysitter once a week, it isn't worth the money.
  5. It's all about sex.
  6. I haven't read Love in the Real World by Rhonda Pritchard and I wouldn't recommend it.
  7. I've been an easy, undemanding, low-maintenance spouse with consistently realistic expectations. D has it easy.
  8. Talking to a therapist made me realise that it is all about making D change and that nagging and constant criticism help.
  9. Love at first sight, a public proposal, quick engagement and celibacy before marriage are the building blocks for a sound marriage like ours.
  10. We don't have a happy marriage.

4 comments:

JK said...

You do the 10 lies thing so well... I am so bad at it... (I have told you this before.)

Karen said...

Do you own 'Love in the Real World'? Can I borrow it, or will it just make me feel bad??

Realistic expectations is an interesting one, as to be realistic you have to acknowledge your partners inadequacies, and then, I guess the question becomes "how inadequate is too inadequate".

I'm also starting to think compatible morality is one of the most important things in a relationship... moral incompatibility certainly became a major issue in my last 2!

.carla said...

I find sleeping and waking up patterns are pretty darn important. C and I both like to wake up slowly to morning report. In addition, we both find turning morning report on at 6am to put us to sleep if we are wakeful. It is odd, but luxurious.

I second the moral compatibility.

china said...

I like this. My number one would be:

If you have different life goals, you can just get the other person to change their mind.